Robert Doyel is worried in regards to the babies born to single parents – so worried, the truth is, that he’s written a book regarding the problem. His perspective is undoubtedly an unusual one: He spent 16 years like a Florida judge, mostly in family court, where he was linked to more than 15,000 restraining order cases, and also thousands of dependency, custody, and paternity cases.
What worries him a lot, he states, is the fact that “there isn’t any concerted effort anywhere even going to report on the situation, not to say try to change it.” His concerns about “the prevalence of unwed births and identifying problems they cause” led him to publish The Baby Mama Syndrome (Lake Cannon Press).
This book is undoubtedly an eye-opener, studying the problem of the “fragile families” from multiple angles, including the difficulties of abuse, neglect, and violence. Social workers, teachers, physicians, nurses, along with other professionals who handle these children in addition to their parents will probably be interested in the sheer sized the problem (1.six million babies every year) along with the demographic data with this book.
Doyel notes how the birthrate for teens has been creeping down for many years, however the numbers continue to be daunting: In 2014, about a quarter of an million babies were born to girls 19 and under. There were 2771 births to girls under 15, and most of those young mothers were unmarried.
Despite the widespread assumption that almost all of these single parents are black, statistics show unmarried white mothers develop the most babies, as well as Hispanics and after that blacks.
His thoughtful and well-researched book makes an important contribution to your national discussion about these babies, their mothers, and what goes on as the children become adults and – all too-often – repeat the syndrome. Three top features of the book are particularly impressive.
This book offers many cases studies grouped in patterns: female rivals, fathers married to a new woman, mothers married to a new man, lesbian couples, plus more – for example. There are also triangles, rectangles, and serial troublemakers. One chapter works with a complex pattern that Doyel calls “Baby Mama and Boyfriend vs. Baby Daddy and Husband.”
Reading throughout the permutations and complications makes a picture of the issue that mere data cannot provide – as well as opens a window in the causes. “Baby mamas” threaten and attack rival females who have had multiple babies with the same “baby daddy.” Married females and “baby mamas” battle more than a “baby daddy” who’s fathered their children.
Readers gradually familiarize yourself with the reasons why these women keep having babies by men who won’t marry or support them: Jealousy, poor impulse control, unrestrained sexuality, as well as an inability to get a grip on their lives and futures. The real victims, needless to say, are their children.